{"id":17654,"date":"2023-04-11T18:53:47","date_gmt":"2023-04-11T17:53:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bfwg.org.uk\/bfwg2\/how-to-be-a-role-model-for-girls\/"},"modified":"2023-04-11T18:53:47","modified_gmt":"2023-04-11T17:53:47","slug":"how-to-be-a-role-model-for-girls","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bfwg.org.uk\/bfwg2\/how-to-be-a-role-model-for-girls\/","title":{"rendered":"How to be a Role Model for Girls"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Together we can encourage the next generation of female leaders. Girls often look to the women in their lives for cues about how to think and act. When we speak confidently, take risks, and own our accomplishments, we set positive examples for girls to follow. There are countless opportunities every day to help girls gain the confidence and skills they need to lean in and take the lead.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

More than 50,000 women have started Lean In Circles<\/a> in 184 countries, and new Circles are starting every day. Circles bring together women from all walks of life, from Latina immigrants to women in the U.S. military to so-called \u201cleftover\u201d women in China. In these small groups, women get and give peer mentorship, sharpen their skills, and have a place to be unapologetically ambitious.<\/p>\n

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Here below we share some \u00a0of their expert insights about how to be a Role Model<\/strong> for girls.<\/p>\n

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1. Coach Girls to Speak Confidently<\/strong> \u2013\u00a0<\/span>Girls can undermine themselves when they speak.<\/span><\/p>\n

Many girls use phrases like \u201ckind of\u201d and \u201csort of\u201d to weaken their statements. Some introduce opinions with disclaimers (\u201cI\u2019m not sure if this is right, but . . .\u201d) or use upspeak so their statements sound like questions (\u201cMartin Luther King, Jr., was a civil rights leader?\u201d). These verbal crutches hinder a girl\u2019s ability to share her ideas clearly and confidently\u2014a habit that often carries over into adulthood.<\/span><\/p>\n

To help girls find their voice:<\/span><\/p>\n

Speak with confidence so girls hear what it sounds like. Avoid hedging your opinions with disclaimers or apologies. If you observe a girl falling into these same habits, explain how it undermines the point she\u2019s trying to make. Remind her it\u2019s not just what you say that matters, it\u2019s how you say it, too.<\/span><\/p>\n

Boys often get more airtime in class than girls\u2014they are more likely to call out answers and less likely to be interrupted.1<\/a>\u00a0Teach girls to counteract this by raising their hands and speaking confidently when they\u2019re called on.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Teach Girls to Navigate Conflict \u2013\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>Girls are often taught to suppress their feelings in order to get along with others.2<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

As a result, they do not learn to speak openly and manage conflict. Fast-forward to adulthood: too often women avoid giving each other honest input to avoid being seen as unkind or fall into the trap of personalizing constructive input we receive. Because we shy away from giving and getting direct feedback, many women miss out on the input we need to be our best selves and advance in our careers more quickly.<\/span><\/p>\n

To help girls, do this:<\/span><\/p>\n

Model honest, direct communication for the girls in your life. When faced with a difficult situation, talk to the people involved\u2014not about them\u2014and share your true feelings. Encourage girls to speak their mind and avoid social shortcuts like texting and social media. Role-play difficult conversations together, and ask girls to reflect on what worked and what didn\u2019t. Explain that conflict is an inevitable part of relationships\u2014it\u2019s the way we handle it that matters.<\/span><\/p>\n

ACTIVITY: PROBLEM SOLVING WITH G.I.R.L.<\/span><\/p>\n

Help girls cultivate their problem-solving and conflict-management skills with G.I.R.L., a framework to help them organize their thoughts, weigh options, and strategize a solution.
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\n<\/a><\/span>3. Encourage Girls to Own Their Success \u2013\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>When girls are confident in their abilities, they are more likely to take the lead.3<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

The problem is that girls are often underestimated by others\u2014and underestimate themselves\u2014which erodes their confidence. When girls are complimented on their achievements, they also tend to deflect praise or minimize their accomplishments,4<\/a>\u00a0yet internalizing success is an important part of building self-confidence.<\/span><\/p>\n

These same dynamics carry over into adulthood. Women often get less credit for successes and can be blamed more for failures.5<\/a>\u00a0We also tend to underestimate our own abilities and attribute our success to external factors such as \u201cgetting lucky\u201d or \u201chelp from others.\u201d6<\/a>\u00a0Because we receive less credit and give ourselves less credit, we often feel less self-assured, and it curbs our appetite for taking on new challenges.<\/span><\/p>\n

To help girls, do this:<\/span><\/p>\n

Model owning your accomplishments for the girls in your life. Say \u201cthank you\u201d when you receive a compliment instead of deflecting it. When girls see that it is okay to own their success, they will feel more comfortable doing it themselves. Moreover, look for opportunities to celebrate girls\u2019 success and acknowledge their strengths, and push back if they fall into the trap of sidestepping praise.<\/span><\/p>\n

DID YOU KNOW?<\/span><\/p>\n

The confidence gap starts young: between elementary school and high school, girls\u2019 self-esteem drops 3.5 times more than boys\u2019.7<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

4. Inspire Girls to Go for It \u2013<\/strong>\u00a0<\/span>Because girls often struggle with confidence and fear making mistakes, they are less likely to take risks.<\/span><\/p>\n

Some girls don\u2019t speak up in class unless they\u2019re 100 percent sure they have the right answer, while others shy away from trying new subjects or activities. This same reluctance also holds women back. Compared to our male counterparts, we can be less likely to take on high-profile projects or lobby for more senior positions. Women often wait to apply for a job until they meet 100% of the hiring criteria, while men apply when they meet just 60%.8<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

To help girls, do this:<\/span><\/p>\n

Model taking healthy risks. Talk about the times you\u2019ve stepped out of your comfort zone, and explain how good it feels when you succeed and how much you learn when you don\u2019t. When you hear girls say they\u2019re \u201cnot ready\u201d or \u201ccan\u2019t do it,\u201d gently push back and remind them it\u2019s an opportunity to learn and grow. Make sure girls know that being brave is rarely about dramatic moments: it\u2019s a skill acquired, little by little, over time.<\/span><\/p>\n

ACTIVITY: GOAL SETTING<\/span><\/p>\n

Use our goal-setting activity to help girls break down their goals into achievable steps\u2014and see a clear path from where they are to where they want to go.
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\n<\/a><\/span>5. Celebrate Female Leadership \u2013\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>Girls and boys get very different messages about leadership.<\/span><\/p>\n

We expect boys to lead, so we applaud them when they do. On the other hand, we expect girls to be kind and communal, so when they speak their mind or take the lead, they often face pushback. As a result, girls often worry they\u2019ll make people mad or be laughed at if they assume a leadership position.9<\/a>\u00a0It\u2019s no wonder that by middle school, girls are less interested in leading than boys\u2014a trend that continues into adulthood.10<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

To help girls, do this<\/span><\/p>\n

Talk openly about your own experiences taking the lead and celebrate female leaders in your life and in the news. If you hear a girl being criticized for asserting herself or referred to as \u201cbossy\u201d or \u201caggressive,\u201d step in and explain she should be applauded, not chided, for her leadership skills. Finally, make sure girls understand the benefits of being a leader, like having a voice and making things happen!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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